As a child, it was very easy to make friends. Your mothers would put you in a playroom and you’d automatically find yourself playing with the other kid. It’s always just pure — there aren’t any judgments or hidden agendas, the only premise was to just have fun and have someone to play with. Making friends as a child is fairly straightforward, you play with whoever is in your kindergarten class. And whoever lives nearest you is your bestfriend. But people grow up and everything changes.
As a twenty year old, I believe I’ve already established friendships that I know will stand the test of time. But it wasn’t easy. Finding people who you know you can always count on with just about everything is not an easy feat. Making friends as a teenager is coupled with who’s popular, who you should avoid, who you should only be acquaintances with, and who you should be friends with because they are potential relationship material. It’s complicated and no one comes out unscathed. From when I was a child, I’ve fallen out with a few people that has made such a huge impact in my life. There are some friends that I’ve lost out of touch with whom I’ve had great memories with — memories that are significant to a certain point in my life. And I’m aware that the fall outs were pretty much because of our differences that we were just too immature to resolve.
I grew up in a family where when you argue, you resolve it. It was the norm but I’ve always just kept things to myself. It was something that I also did with the friends I fell out with, and it’s something that I regret now that I’ve matured. Coursing through life as a young adult, I’ve realized that the relationships I built with other people resembles a Venn Diagram — there will be an overlap of our similarities and commonalities but the opposite ends are inevitable as we will always have our differences.
It was a concept that I tried to fight when I was younger but have come to terms with growing up because if I haven’t, I wouldn’t have met the set of people I’m going to have Sunday brunches with. I’ve found that friendship is accepting them for their annoying habits; that it’s calling them out whenever they did something wrong instead of talking behind their back; that it’s being together on a crazy Saturday night through the inevitable Sunday hang over; and that it’s having my own opinion and accepting theirs even if it differs from mine.
And I saw how much friendship, or at least the spirit of it, is seen in the littlest of ways. It’s offering your seat up to a weary looking person on a train ride home; it’s a black child sharing his toys with a white kid; it’s a Catholic doctor attending to a woman whose contraceptive didn’t work; it’s a local helping a foreigner get around the city; it’s a young student helping an old beggar cross the street; it’s everywhere and it’s not difficult to find.
Especially with today’s technology — how we can take a picture of everything we see and easily upload it on the internet. I’ve always taken an interest in taking pictures of people going along their day, there’s something about seeing them do something selflessly — thinking nobody knows — that gives me hope that the world isn’t all bad. The pictures I take is a constant reminder that there are still good in the world. Fortunately, the new Huawei P9 comes with a camera co-engineered with Leica. Its dual lenses will allow me to take pictures that restores my faith in humanity fast enough with the highest quality possible.
Coming into terms that there will always be a clash of personalities in my circle of friends has certainly helped me maintain and cultivate it in a way that I know will last until my dying breath. But seeing how much good there is left in the world gives me hope that no matter where we come from and what we believe in, there is still hope for every human being in this world getting along. Friendship among people from different walks of life can be seen in the littlest of ways but it makes the biggest impact.